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As grandmothers, we know that the world our grandkids are growing up in is quite different from the one we knew. The way they play, learn, and connect with others has changed drastically. But if there’s one thing that never changes, it’s the joy of feeling close to our grandchildren.
We all want to be a meaningful presence in their lives, not just a relative they see on holidays. One of the best ways to do that is by stepping into their world and showing them that we care about what excites them. Whether they’re obsessed with video games, love a particular sport, or have a favorite musician, these interests can be the perfect gateway to a stronger bond.
If you’re looking for ways to connect, here are 15 ways you can use your grandkids’ passions to build a stronger, more meaningful relationship with them.
1. Ask Them to Teach You About Their Favorite Hobby
Kids love feeling like the expert. When you ask them to teach you something they love, you’re not just learning a new skill—you’re making them feel valued.
Does your grandchild love skateboarding, knitting, coding, or photography? Whatever it is, ask them to show you the ropes! Even if you struggle to get the hang of it, the time spent together will be precious. The joy of watching you try (and maybe fail a little) will bring plenty of laughter and great memories.
2. Watch Their Favorite Movies & Shows Together
Instead of dismissing their favorite shows as “kids’ stuff,” take the time to watch with them. Ask about their favorite characters, why they love the story, and what parts make them laugh.
This doesn’t mean you have to sit through an entire season of a cartoon you don’t understand, but making an effort to watch a few episodes or a movie together shows you’re interested. You might even find yourself getting into the storyline!
3. Play Their Favorite Video Games
Even if you’ve never held a controller in your life, trying out a video game with your grandkids is a fantastic way to bond.
Many kids spend hours playing online multiplayer games. Instead of seeing it as just screen time, see it as an opportunity. Some games are cooperative, meaning you can play on the same team, while others allow you to compete in a fun way. If gaming isn’t for you, simply sitting beside them, watching, and cheering them on can still mean the world to them.
4. Attend Their Events and Activities
If your grandchild is in a school play, sports team, or music recital, make it a priority to show up and be their biggest fan. Even if they act like they don’t care, trust me—they do.
Knowing that Grandma is in the audience cheering them on boosts their confidence and gives them a sense of pride. After the event, ask them about their favorite part, and let them know how proud you are.
5. Read Books They Love
Reading together isn’t just for toddlers. If your grandchild is an avid reader, pick up one of their favorite books and read it, too.
When you share a story, you gain a new way to connect. Ask them about their favorite characters, discuss plot twists, and share your thoughts. If they like graphic novels or comic books, give those a try, too.
You can even start a little “Grandma-Grandchild Book Club” where you read the same book and discuss it.
6. Create Art Together
Many kids love to draw, paint, or craft. Even if you don’t consider yourself artistic, joining in on their creative activities can be a great bonding experience.
Set up a little art station where you both can work on a project together. It doesn’t have to be perfect—just the act of creating side by side will make it special.
7. Cook or Bake Something They Love
If your grandchild has a favorite dish or dessert, invite them into the kitchen to make it with you. Cooking together is a great way to bond and share stories.
You can even introduce them to a family recipe while letting them put their own creative twist on it. Maybe they can help decorate cookies or mix ingredients while you handle the oven.
8. Learn Their Favorite Dance Moves
Dancing has changed a lot over the years, but that doesn’t mean we can’t have fun with it! If your grandkids love TikTok dances or trendy moves, let them teach you.
Even if you have two left feet, they’ll appreciate the effort. The fun and laughter that come from trying will make it all worthwhile.
9. Support Their Music Interests
Music can be a powerful way to bond. If your grandchild plays an instrument, listen to them practice and ask them about it.
If they have a favorite band or singer, give their music a listen. Ask them what they love about it and let them share their favorite songs with you. You may not love every song, but showing interest in what they enjoy builds connection.
10. Plan an Outing Around Their Interests
If they love nature, plan a hike. If they’re into science, visit a museum. If they adore animals, take them to the zoo.
By tailoring outings to their interests, you make the experience feel extra special and create memories they’ll treasure.
11. Ask About Their Favorite YouTubers or Influencers
Instead of rolling your eyes at their favorite YouTube stars, ask about them. Who are they? Why do they like them?
You might not understand all the hype, but being open-minded about their interests opens the door to meaningful conversations.
12. Work on a Project Together
Whether it’s a puzzle, LEGO set, or DIY project, working side by side fosters teamwork and bonding.
Kids love having something to show off, and completing a project together gives them a sense of accomplishment.
13. Write or Create Stories Together
If they love storytelling, suggest writing a short story together. If they enjoy making videos, help them brainstorm fun ideas.
Creativity is always better when shared!
14. Show Interest in Their Style and Fashion Choices
Teens especially appreciate when adults respect their style. Compliment their outfits, ask about their favorite brands, or let them pick out something trendy for you—just for fun!
It lets them know you value their self-expression.
15. Let Them Know You’re Their Safe Space
At the heart of all these activities is one important truth: our grandkids just want to feel seen, heard, and loved.
When we make an effort to engage with their world, we’re telling them, I care about who you are, and I love you for it.
Final Thoughts
Getting closer to our grandkids doesn’t mean we have to become them or force ourselves into their interests. It simply means showing up, asking questions, and making an effort to understand what makes them happy.
And who knows? You might just discover a new hobby or passion yourself along the way!
What are some ways you’ve connected with your grandkids through their interests? I’d love to hear your stories! 💖
