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We grandmothers take pride in our homes, keeping them cozy, filled with memories, and welcoming for our beloved grandkids. But let’s be honest—there are a few things in our homes that make our grandchildren scrunch up their noses, feel a little uncomfortable, or even hesitate to visit as often as we’d like.
Let’s talk about some of those off-putting things so we can make our homes more inviting for our grandkids.
1. Unfamiliar or Strong Scents
Our noses adjust to the scents in our homes, but for grandkids, a house filled with mothballs, old books, or strong floral air fresheners can be overwhelming. Some grandmothers love the scent of lavender or rose potpourri, but to a child, it might smell like an antique shop. Even scented candles or essential oils that seem pleasant to us can be overpowering to little noses.
Solution: Keep the air fresh with open windows when possible, opt for lighter, fresher scents, and avoid overpowering fragrances. Using a neutral air purifier can help as well.
2. Dusty or Cluttered Spaces
We cherish our collectibles and keepsakes, but grandkids often see clutter as ‘stuff in the way.’ Dusty surfaces, crowded shelves, and furniture covered in plastic can make a space feel less comfortable and more like a museum. They may also worry about breaking something fragile when playing or moving around.
Solution: Consider decluttering high-traffic areas and keeping common spaces dust-free so grandkids can relax without feeling like they might knock something over. Creating a designated play or hangout area for them can also make them feel more at ease.
3. Uncomfortable Furniture
Some of us have kept the same couches and chairs for decades, and while they might hold sentimental value, they might not be the most comfortable for our grandkids. Stiff cushions, sinking seats, or plastic-covered sofas can make a visit feel less inviting. Some older recliners can even be a challenge for younger kids to sit in without feeling swallowed up.
Solution: If new furniture isn’t an option, adding soft throw blankets, extra cushions, or a cozy bean bag in a corner can make a world of difference. Keeping a small, child-friendly seating area can also make them feel more comfortable.
4. TV Always on News Channels
It’s no secret that we love keeping up with current events, but grandkids might find a constant stream of news overwhelming or boring. The serious tone, political debates, or even distressing world events can make them uneasy. They’d rather hear a fun story, play a game, or watch something they enjoy.
Solution: When the grandkids visit, try switching to family-friendly programming, playing some music, or engaging them in conversation instead. A fun movie or interactive show can also be a great way to bond with them.
5. Food That Feels ‘Too Old-Fashioned’
We take pride in our home-cooked meals, but grandkids don’t always appreciate liver and onions, Jell-O salads, or prune juice. They might also hesitate at unfamiliar flavors or textures that were once common in our kitchens. Even meals that we consider nutritious might seem unappealing to a child who prefers more familiar options.
Solution: Have a mix of classic comfort foods and kid-friendly options. Keeping a few of their favorite snacks on hand is always a good idea! Offering fun ways to involve them in meal preparation, like making cookies or assembling their own mini sandwiches, can also encourage them to eat without complaint.
6. Old-School House Rules That Feel Too Strict
Many of us were raised with strict rules—no feet on the furniture, no loud voices inside, no snacking outside mealtimes—but grandkids are used to a more relaxed environment. Too many “no’s” can make a visit feel like a list of restrictions rather than a time to enjoy themselves.
Solution: Consider relaxing some rules when they visit. Let them curl up on the couch, have a snack, or bring their favorite toy along. Establishing boundaries that allow them some freedom while still respecting household values can strike a good balance.
7. Dim or Yellow Lighting
Soft lighting may feel warm to us, but grandkids are used to bright, natural light. Dim, yellow lighting can make the home feel outdated or even a little gloomy to younger visitors. It can also make it difficult for them to read, do crafts, or play games comfortably.
Solution: Adding brighter LED bulbs or simply opening more curtains can instantly make a space feel more welcoming. If possible, setting up a well-lit area with adjustable lighting can cater to both our comfort and theirs.
8. Outdated or Unfamiliar Toys
We love saving toys from when our own children were young, but our grandkids might not be as excited about an old doll with missing hair or a box of puzzles missing a few pieces. They appreciate toys they recognize and enjoy, like newer board games, building sets, or action figures that match their current interests.
Solution: Keep a small collection of toys and books that match their current interests, and don’t be afraid to rotate in something new. Asking their parents what they’re into at the moment can help keep things engaging for them.
9. Creepy or Too Many Decorations
Dolls with glass eyes, too many family portraits staring down from the walls, or a room filled with figurines can make kids feel uneasy, especially at night. What we see as charming and nostalgic, they may view as eerie and unsettling.
Solution: If you have decorations that your grandkids find spooky, consider moving them out of sight when they visit. Creating a space that feels lively and warm will make them feel more at ease.
10. A House That Feels Too ‘Off-Limits’
If every room is a “no-touch” zone, grandkids may feel like visitors instead of welcomed guests. A house should feel like home, not like they need to tiptoe around everything. If they feel like they have to be extra careful all the time, they may not feel as eager to return.
Solution: Create a space that feels like theirs—a reading nook, a special drawer with their favorite things, or a soft spot to lounge. Giving them a place where they can relax and be themselves will make their visits more enjoyable.
At the end of the day, our homes reflect us, and we want our grandkids to feel comfortable, welcome, and excited to visit. A few small changes can make all the difference in creating a space where they feel at home, making visits more frequent, enjoyable, and full of happy memories!
